tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.comments2023-07-18T16:22:58.757+01:00Mike's BlogUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger990125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-23331693755597607282013-05-16T08:48:42.076+01:002013-05-16T08:48:42.076+01:00Wow, many, many congratulations! Hope you have a f...Wow, many, many congratulations! Hope you have a fantastic honeymoon. <br /><br />I look forward to the photos and to reading the handy guide for civil partnerships, just in case I ever need it.<br /><br />Big hugs,<br /><br />Antony xAntonyhttp://www.antonysimpson.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-76727304014965000322013-05-13T22:17:59.371+01:002013-05-13T22:17:59.371+01:00I hope everything turns out the way you both wish ...I hope everything turns out the way you both wish it to on Wednesday and I hope your marriage will be long and happy :)Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10393265755614039206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-38384904662586994992013-05-11T02:42:34.585+01:002013-05-11T02:42:34.585+01:00Hi Mike,
I don't know if anyone - EVER - has ...Hi Mike,<br /><br />I don't know if anyone - EVER - has said that anything I write is inspirational lol so thank you, even though I don't quite believe it.<br /><br />Hope all is well.<br /><br />- The big day approaches :-) <br /><br />A xAntonyhttp://www.antonysimpson.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-7749881118679161242013-04-30T21:59:48.652+01:002013-04-30T21:59:48.652+01:00'Fraid so! But I'm always up for new frien...'Fraid so! But I'm always up for new friends. As is Fella, so long as you promise not to try and steal him from me! I'm reading your blog - I see you are very much in dating mode. My advice is enjoy. I'll comment on your posts separately :-)Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07084142428197402563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-8610052829973547962013-04-30T21:56:07.104+01:002013-04-30T21:56:07.104+01:00I am become Bridezilla!
It can only really work i...I am become Bridezilla!<br /><br />It can only really work if I accept that it's a big party and people will have to enjoy themselves as best they can. German efficiency allows for little comfort!!Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07084142428197402563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-9671573517320262362013-04-30T21:50:58.149+01:002013-04-30T21:50:58.149+01:00I have bought it; it was recommended by a date man...I have bought it; it was recommended by a date many years ago. It's on the big risk for reading! In the meantime thank you for your kind words. I appreciate it and you've ben very kind :-)Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07084142428197402563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-126949840953644372013-04-30T21:47:17.499+01:002013-04-30T21:47:17.499+01:00Thanks Anthony. I thought of you when I was drafti...Thanks Anthony. I thought of you when I was drafting this as your own posts have been an inspiration. Your advice is bang on as are your instincts. X Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07084142428197402563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-16660953013878860612013-04-29T14:29:29.624+01:002013-04-29T14:29:29.624+01:00Hi Mike,
I read your post a few days ago, but wan...Hi Mike,<br /><br />I read your post a few days ago, but wanted to have a think before I posted this comment. <br /><br />I've learned that the grief stricken me doesn't cry (weird I know), but instead sleeps a lot, looses his motivation and zest for life. We all have our own ways of coping with grief, but what I found helped was to live rather than exist and experience the reasons I love to live: true joy, happiness and love.<br /><br />The wedding with be a joyful day; of course it will remind him of whose not there to share the day, but it will also remind him who is still around and loves him dearly. Hopefully the day will remind him of the high of joy and happiness which couldn't exist without the low of grief and sadness. It will remind him that he has a future with someone that loves him.<br /><br />Our flaws and demons always come out when we are most vulnerable. My advice would be to keep an eye on him, be supportive and were necessary pull him up on any bad behaviour. Sometimes we need someone to remind us that the bad behaviour is unacceptable - almost like a parent I guess.<br /><br />As you said the cycles of birth and death are part of life; all we can do is enjoy the highs together and support each other through the low times.<br /><br />Take care, thinking of you & fella,<br /><br />A xAntonyhttp://www.antonysimpson.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-34994604768958545422013-04-28T12:32:43.783+01:002013-04-28T12:32:43.783+01:00You've probably read 'The Velvet Rage'...You've probably read 'The Velvet Rage' by Alan Downs<br /><a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Velvet-Rage-REISSUE-Alan-Downs/dp/0738215678" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.co.uk/Velvet-Rage-REISSUE-Alan-Downs/dp/0738215678</a><br />Your thesis is a lovely scientifically rigorous demonstration of something, as a gay child psychologist, I've firmly believed for many years viz that the most gay men have significantly developmentally damaged relationship repertoires as a consequence of having had to limp through hostile social environments in the family, at school and into adult life. The myth that 'most out gay men are nice and well adjusted because it's kinda cool to be gay now' needs to be challenged. Well done for all your hard work in producing a thesis which says something valuable and which will surely change the world and make it a better place.GaySocrateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01517914043175326298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-85289819970167208892013-04-20T00:57:41.969+01:002013-04-20T00:57:41.969+01:00Haha, 4 years later and you are taken. Oh well goo...Haha, 4 years later and you are taken. Oh well good luck in your marriage ;-) still I think I want to meet you and Fella.Paul Mountainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12514826571551656275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-84432671842953683922013-04-20T00:52:01.470+01:002013-04-20T00:52:01.470+01:00well parship generated almost the same results for...well parship generated almost the same results for myself.... either their generator is bullshit, or we are a match made in heaven =) Wanna grab a coffee sometime?Paul Mountainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12514826571551656275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-11620536749441539272013-04-03T01:57:35.969+01:002013-04-03T01:57:35.969+01:00Have a fantastic civil partnership ceremony!
I g...Have a fantastic civil partnership ceremony! <br /><br />I get what you say about the <i>usually</i> hetrosexual family and friends that don't get the lack of a female when it comes to stag & hen parties and I understand the expectations of <i>Oh...I've never been to a gay wedding before</i>.<br /><br />My advice would be - as long as you and fella organise the day so that you enjoy it; so will everybody else. As after all those people are coming together to celebrate your love and the commitment you make to one another.<br /><br />Have a fantastic day! And we expect a FULL report.<br /><br />Take care,<br /><br />A xAntonyhttp://www.antonysimpson.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-31309925927955940352013-04-01T13:36:07.595+01:002013-04-01T13:36:07.595+01:00Thanks. Glad you liked it. It is a bit of a dry su...Thanks. Glad you liked it. It is a bit of a dry summary of findings but I hope it still got across some useful info. The perils of doing quantitative research I guess:-)<br /><br />Society is made up of institutions and I think the impact they have on people on LGBT people can really wear people down. It's definitely something worth exploring further. Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07084142428197402563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-4309975577568172092013-04-01T13:33:43.666+01:002013-04-01T13:33:43.666+01:00You're absolutely right of course. It's am...You're absolutely right of course. It's amazing that now people don't have to give up the idea/dream of a recognised relationship, family and children when coming to terms with their sexual orientation. That alone will have massive positive effects on the mindsets and feelings of gay people. Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07084142428197402563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-85919292061720059972013-03-09T02:43:53.519+00:002013-03-09T02:43:53.519+00:00I read an interesting book called 'God believe...I read an interesting book called 'God believes in love' written by an American Gay Bishop. Although it was based on Christianity there was one point that springs to mind after reading your blog post:<br /><br /><i>The concept of marriage has evolved throughout it's thousands of years of existence.</i><br /><br />The author of this book looked into the history of marriage and stated how it had evolved and changed to remain relevant to the population and taking into account the "needs" of society.<br /><br />I think it will be interesting to see how it all plays out. I think give it another decade or two and nobody will think twice about two men/women getting married apart from a minority of hardcore religious groups.<br /><br />For me, it's amazing to think I can have a civil partnership and may soon be able to get married. When I realised I was gay and accepted it within myself, I just accepted that getting married and having children were just two things that I'd never be able to do. <b>Amazing how times have changed!</b> I now look forward to meeting Mr. Right and marrying him :D.<br /><br />Take care,<br /><br />A xAntonyhttp://www.antonysimpson.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-68389801045043360652013-03-09T02:35:15.469+00:002013-03-09T02:35:15.469+00:00Hi Mike,
A fascinating read, thanks for sharing! ...Hi Mike,<br /><br />A fascinating read, thanks for sharing! It's always good to see the results of a study that you participate in.<br /><br />I liked the use of the physcosocial development model and the inclusion of qualitative data (although more qualitative data would have broke up the dry statistics a little). I completely agreed with all of your recommendations in the conclusion.<br /><br />I don't think we (gay & bisexual men) talk about the impact social institutions have on our identify as much as we should. Certainly reading your study has made me think about the impacts (both positive and negative) of social institutions on my identity and is something I intend to discuss with my gay friends.<br /><br />Take care, <br /><br />A xAntonyhttp://www.antonysimpson.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-84809768393469810652013-03-09T02:34:59.334+00:002013-03-09T02:34:59.334+00:00Hi Mike,
A fascinating read, thanks for sharing! ...Hi Mike,<br /><br />A fascinating read, thanks for sharing! It's always good to see the results of a study that you participate in.<br /><br />I liked the use of the physcosocial development model and the inclusion of qualitative data (although more qualitative data would have broke up the dry statistics a little). I completely agreed with all of your recommendations in the conclusion.<br /><br />I don't think we (gay & bisexual men) talk about the impact social institutions have on our identify as much as we should. Certainly reading your study has made me think about the impacts (both positive and negative) of social institutions on my identity and is something I intend to discuss with my gay friends.<br /><br />Take care, <br /><br />A x<br />Antonyhttp://www.antonysimpson.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-90538104349763656432013-03-06T19:25:46.335+00:002013-03-06T19:25:46.335+00:00Thanks everyone :-) Nice to know my favourite blog...Thanks everyone :-) Nice to know my favourite bloggers are still around! Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07084142428197402563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-72802744466081765602013-03-06T06:57:58.559+00:002013-03-06T06:57:58.559+00:00Hi,
best blogHi,<br />best blogjmoraishttp://adf.ly/9hoflnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-6239094091825119952013-02-13T23:45:43.583+00:002013-02-13T23:45:43.583+00:00Mike, so glad to have you back! :-) I was worried ...Mike, so glad to have you back! :-) I was worried you'd disappeared from the blog sphere for a while! <br /><br />Glad gypsy and Morag are both still alive lol.<br /><br />Dissertations are tough - congratulations on completing it and getting it submitted! I look forward to reading it! <br /><br />Massive congratulations on securing the new job! I know from (far too personal) experience that it is an immense time of change in the NHS and I'm so pleased there will be wise people like yourselves to steer the new organisations in the right direction.<br /><br />Look forward to hearing more about the civil partnership and how you and fella have been getting on.<br /><br />My love,<br /><br />A Antonyhttp://www.antonysimpson.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-16142527705086137212013-02-11T17:10:11.810+00:002013-02-11T17:10:11.810+00:00Welcome back! I'm glad you are doing well. Con...Welcome back! I'm glad you are doing well. Congratulations on your degree and the new job! Nik_TheGreekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00986723570093229435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-78370053113986540642013-02-10T12:34:02.464+00:002013-02-10T12:34:02.464+00:00Ahoj Mike...
Our CP anniversary is 7 years in May...Ahoj Mike...<br /><br />Our CP anniversary is 7 years in May. We look forward to marriage...<br /><br />Welcome back and good stuff on the academics.<br /><br />ahojMadeInScotlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565114264116867519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-39207966364897236272012-11-08T19:52:30.928+00:002012-11-08T19:52:30.928+00:00Great post Mike
Funny when I read the offending sl...Great post Mike<br />Funny when I read the offending slogan at first, I didn't get the 'sexuality cure' message.<br />I just thought it was an attempt at a humorous response to that 'I'm the only gay in the village' gay victim mentality which seems to piss a lot of straight people off<br />'Not Gay! Ex-Gay, Post-Gay and Proud! Get over it!'<br />I (incorrectly)read as 'Neither Gay, nor Ex-Gay nor Post-Gay Just Straight and Proud! You've got your rights now move on and get over it!'<br />I was up in London last week with my fella and we saw one of the 'Some People Are Gay..' slogans on a double-decker and we were laughing at how it made the bus seem like a gay bus full of gay people sitting at the windows. I suppose most of the people on the bus would have been unaware of the proud declaration emblazoned over their chosen means of transport.<br />Hmm! What is it with churches and sexuality? Some gays are spiritual-get over it! Most churches aren't- sad but true! <br />Love<br />GS<br />xGaySocrateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01517914043175326298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-25070745430386332472012-06-07T20:44:29.411+01:002012-06-07T20:44:29.411+01:00LOL yes I did - www.shrodis.co.uk or click on the ...LOL yes I did - www.shrodis.co.uk or click on the research link at the top of the blog!Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07084142428197402563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-554171686671881662.post-50035429233495479932012-06-06T23:08:47.316+01:002012-06-06T23:08:47.316+01:00You forgot to post the link at the bottom of the p...You forgot to post the link at the bottom of the post, so we can share and encourage others to complete the survey. <br /><br />A xAntonyhttp://www.antonysimpson.com/noreply@blogger.com